Book Kay for a speech or coaching
Kay Xander Mellish specializes in helping Danes and Americans work better together. Book Kay to deliver a presentation or half-day workshop to your team, or consider one-on-one coaching to help develop strategies for improved cross-cultural understanding. Kay can work with you either in-person or virtually, depending on your needs.
Get the “Working with” books
“Working with Americans: Tips for Danes” and “Working with Danes: Tips for Americans” are entertaining, easy-to-read collections of practical tips for Danes and Americans who want to work better together. The books cost DK150 on Amazon, Saxo, or from our webshop. Bulk purchase discounts available – or consider our fun flip book that includes both books.
Listen to our audiobooks
Hear Kay’s tips on working better with Americans or working with Danes while you drive, work out, or tidy up the house with our audiobooks, which have a running time of 2 hours. Kay reads the text herself. Both “Working with Americans” and “Working with Danes” are available on Amazon Audible, NexTory, Bookbeat, and Mofibo/Storytel.
Enjoy Kay’s “33 on Thursday” videos – a 33-second tip on cultural issues
Are you a company with Danish and US employees?
Our “Working with Americans/Working with Danes” flip book makes a fun corporate gift. Entertaining and informative, it’s a great approach to helping Danes and Americans work better together, smoothly and effectively.
Order the flip book via our webshop. Bulk prices are available, and you can professionalize your version by adding a sticker with your corporate logo.
I had the pleasure of having Kay attend one of my Leadership team Meetings. As a Dane, living in America, I thought it would be insightful to have Kay join and talk about the culture differences and styles between the two countries. Her delivery and presentation was effective, humorous and spot on. She is entertaining and gives great understandings how to mesh both worlds together.
We invited Kay to speak to our young international talents from our Postgraduate Program at Danfoss. Kay left a great impression in her fun, inspiring and informative way of delivering her presentation. Some of their comments were:”Having workshop with Kay helped to realize the reason why colleagues in Denmark work and behave in a certain way.” “Super interesting, it explained so many things I never realized I did not fully comprehend!” “Great content to immerse yourself in Danish culture.” Kay has my biggest recommendations.
“Thank you for a great talk! You wouldn’t imagine the amount of positive comments I got from several colleagues. We all feel we understand our American counterparts better now, and overall we’re more sensitive to the huge cultural differences we face every day, as we have offices in several locations in the US.”
“As a Danish-based company employing in the US and EMEA, Kay helped us understand some of the cultural differences, similarities, and barriers that affect our daily work. All done with great (familiar) examples and a sense of humour. She can really relate to both sides and puts things nicely into context.”
”Vi er en stor offentlig organisation, som samarbejder tæt og på daglig basis med vores amerikanske it-leverandør. På en temadag i sektionen (35 pers.) holdt Kay Xander Mellish et foredrag om den amerikanske kultur og sprog, med fokus på som dansk institution at have amerikanske samarbejdspartnere. Det var et yderst underholdende og lærerigt arrangement, hvor vi alle havde aha-oplevelser. Vi gik derfra med en større forståelse af vores amerikanske kollegaer, som vi har samarbejdet med gennem flere år. Ved forskellige øvelser, blev vi udfordret på det amerikanske sprog, og lærte forskellige tips og tricks som vi vil gøre brug af fremover. Vi kan varmt anbefale Kay, som fanger sit publikum med sin humoristiske tilgang til kulturelle og sproglige forskelle mellem Danmark og USA.”
“Kay was invited to our business college to give a speech about American culture and values, and we were not disappointed! Kay managed to hold our students’ attention for 60 minutes and answer their many questions due to her authentic, inspiring and insightful approach and outstanding knowledge about the topic. The student reviews have only been positive and we hope to be able to invite her again as our guest speaker!”
We recently had Kay Xander Mellish speak at one of our quarterly leadership meetings for our commercial leadership team in EMEA. Kay delivered one of the best one hour speaks that we have ever seen in this group! Her high energy, enthusiasm and knowledge about the ‘Danish’ and ‘American’ work culture is amazing. She delivers the speak in a very personable way and she has an amazing ability to connect with the audience and stay connected for the duration of the presentation. The audience left feeling excited, motivated and definitely more knowledgeable about how to work in the best way in a Danish and American context.
“Kay caught the attention of the audience very well and judging by the number of questions and positive comments in the end, our colleagues walked away more knowledgeable about how to collaborate even better with our American colleagues.”
A dual citizen of Denmark and the UK, Kay has corporate experience in both countries. In the US, she worked for units of Disney, News Corp., and Time-Warner before moving to Denmark, where she has been on staff at Danske Bank and Carlsberg, in addition to working at small and medium size companies.
Since 2013, Kay has provided a variety of writing and speaking services to Danish companies under the umbrella of KXMGroup. She offers both in-person and virtual introductions to Danish working culture aimed at newly-arrived international specialists, as well as working with large and mid-size companies helping Danes and Americans work better together.
Kay lives in Copenhagen, but travels frequently around Denmark to deliver presentations. She also returns to the USA at least twice a year, where her favorite regions are Wisconsin, Arizona, and New York City.
“How are you?” Small talk and how to do it
In this excerpt from “Working with Americans: Tips for Danes”, Kay Xander Mellish offers tips for answering the inevitable American question “How are you?”.
She also explains how to make small talk with US business partners – and sometimes with their spouses, who are often invited to business dinners.
How to speak “Amerikansk”
In this excerpt from “Working with Americans: Tips for Danes”, Kay Xander Mellish clears up some minor points of language that can trip up Danes.
(By the way, americansk, the Danish word for the language spoken in the US, is not translated directly. Most Americans will just say they speak English.)
Why you need to act excited to succeed in the US
In this excerpt from “Working with Americans: Tips for Danes,” Kay Xander Mellish talks about the enthusiasm and energy that defines Americans and American business, and advises Danes that their calm, mature, “no big arm movements” demeanor may be seen as disinterest or even boredom by their US counterparts.
Why you are getting cc’d on so many emails
In this excerpt from the book “Working with Americans: Tips for Danes”, Kay Xander Mellish explains why your US reports may insist on “keeping you in the loop” on matters that don’t interest you at all. It all goes back to the fearsome US litigation environment: with that little “cc”, your colleagues are passing legal responsibility on to you, and covering their own backsides if it all goes wrong.